I don’t even know how to begin this, and it’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I had to get a few thing off my mind, but I was thinking and going over stuff and the thing that kept coming back was
Matthew 7:1 “Do not judge, or you shall be judged”
Sure, I understand that everyone has judged something, including myself, whether that was an opinion or a person. I am not perfect and I never will be, nobody is. You have to see that it’s okay to not be perfect. You will make choices, and say things that are wrong, but God loves and he forgives. YOU ARE HIS CHILD.
For me I grew up hearing “sticks and stone may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” and I can not say how big of a LIE that saying is. WORDS DO HURT, THE IMPACT LIVES. Gossip/Rumors would be the biggest problem that involves words.
All throughout your life, you will be judged. You will go through gossip and you might even learn things about you that you didn’t know about yourself 😜 aka: rumors!!!!!!!! Don’t believe everything you hear, always ask the person it’s about if you really wanna know.
Gossip is awful. Words and things that are said about people hurt. I’ve been through that, but when I learned that the only reason that was happening was because of jealousy or hate I decided that I was so over letting people hurt me. I didn’t care what they thought, I only care what God thinks. He is the only judge in my life.
Yes, I have gossiped before. I have talked about people and said some hurtful things. I never saw or felt how bad those words could hurt until I was the one being talked about.
Matthew 5:44 says “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”
I was body shamed, had rumors spread about me, friends that I thought I could trust.. talked about me. The words and ideas that were said hurt. They changed me. I hated my body, I hated the things that were said. I knew they weren’t true, but the more I heard it the more I began to let it impact me. When I let go and understood that they were trying to hurt me, was when I stopped letting it hurt me.. they would not win.
I began to realize that I had said hurtful words too, and I decided to make a change. Now if I catch myself gossiping, I stop. You never know what someone is going through, or how much more they can take. Just be nice.
Romans 2:1 says “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone for at whatever point you judge another, are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment are doing the same”
WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE. What right do you have to judge one another?? Worry about yourself and your life, not someone else because in my opinion if you have people talking about you then you must be doing something right for them to waste their time thinking about you. 🤷🏼♀️
A few tips:
- Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character says who you are as a person, it’s you, while your reputation is what people think you are.
- Turn the other cheek. Just ignore them, they want to hurt you and get under your skin. When people see that you’re not bothered, they will not get the satisfaction they want.
- RETALIATION IS NOT THE KEY. 🚫❌ You’re giving them the go that what they said or the rumor they started got to you. You’re showing them weakness.
- Last, Kill them with KINDNESS. This totally might be the hardest thing i’ve done, but it’s so efficient. They want you to be hurt and be mean back, so instead just ignore or say “oh thanks, by the way your outfit looks cute today” and watch their reaction to that one.
My biggest reminder I want you to remember is that; the only judge that truly matters is God. He should be the opinion you are worried about. Live your life completely for him, and I promise you will see a change❤️ He’s a good good father.
A few more versus about judging/gossip
- Romans 14:30
- Matthew 7:3
- 1 Corinthians 15:33
- Ephesians 4:29
- James 3:3-6